Thursday, August 2, 2012

Say Thanks to Your Man, Ladies

Been thinking a lot the last few days about what to write about on my new blog.  Probably been thinking too much.  It feels strange to just sit down and write stuff with nothing to really write about, but I remind myself that sometimes that very act will lead to something interesting.  So here I am as I wait my plastic lunch to finish cooking in the oven. 

It's one of those days today where the brain just feels like mush.  It's difficult to focus on one thing for very long.  I'm not sure if it is the MS acting up because it is so hot, or maybe it is just the lack of sustenance so far today.  All I've eaten is a small amount of junk food with a bottle of Diet Dr. Pepper to wash it down.  Gee.  Isn't that just what you want to read about?  LOL

I have been tossing around some story ideas, but nothing I feel ready to start writing just yet.  So I think I'll just ramble a bit today about various tidbits that made me think more than normal.  You know.  Those little questions that people ask on Facebook or other social forums that make you stop and wonder why you never really gave that much thought before.  Yeah.  That's what I'm talking about.  For instance, a fellow sister-wolf posted a question on her page.  What would you do if you woke up and found you had changed to the opposite sex for the day?  This brought about all the funny comments you would expect from guys and gals alike, but another person put forth a little more thought. "Just think what you could learn about your partner if that happened."  

It makes me wonder if it would actually make us closer or push us apart.  How would it feel to walk a mile in his shoes?  How would it feel to be the only one who has to get up and go to work for 10 - 15 hours a day, five days a week, sometimes more?  How would it feel to shoulder the responsibility of caring for a wife who has MS?  Then there are all the other things that need to be done at home that she can't do.  Oh and let's not forget the nagging in-laws and mother.  How would it feel to know all of this is just expected of you by society, and you can't show any stress or real emotion about it because men don't do that?  How would I keep all of the crap I go through everyday just dealing with normal work stress held back so I don't take it out on my mate? 

Thinking about all of this in depth made me feel somewhat humbled.  I think us women sometimes tend to take for granted just how much our men shoulder burdens day to day.  Even the ones who seem a bit selfish are still saddled with a lot of responsibility that we don't even think much about.  We just expect it because they are men and that is what men are supposed to do.  They don't complain about it, at least mine never does.  They just go on with life as if it was just a walk in the park.  So that brings me to the question of how often do we tell our men thank you?  How often do you thank your man just for doing what people expect him to do everyday without complaining about it or asking for anything in return for it?  We see these psychologists and self-help authors and such giving out advice to men where they tell them to appreciate the little things us women do for them everyday.  But just how often do we tell them they are appreciated for just doing the little things they do everyday?  Human kindness works for both sexes, I believe. 

I think I'll greet my husband with a hug and a thank you when he walks in the door tonight.  I'm sure the look he will give me will be hilarious as he wonders what in the world I'm talking about, but who knows.  Just maybe it will ease a little of the burden he carries if he knows he is appreciated, too.  Give it a try with your own mate, and let me know how it goes.


  1. It's a shame there's no like button! Very well said. It gives you some food for thought...